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HOW TO CHOOSE
BRIDESMAIDS?
This is also not an easy task, but the size
and scale of your wedding will help you
determine how many maids are appropriate and
it is usual to choose from both sides of the
family but don't feel pressurized into
picking someone you don't want. Bridesmaids
whoever you choose should help erase
tension, not create it. Most of the time
your best friend comes first since she knows
as much as your groom knows about you & your
feelings.
You
need to be careful in picking them since mix
of personalities may lead to explosions.
Well, you don't need any long-faces in your
wedding.
Grown up girls
Most
importantly choose a friend who loves you,
someone who will be a fun & honest shopping
partner. On the day you want a supportive
shoulder to lean on, not a one who is too
busy flirting with the best man. Remember
that being a bridesmaid is an excuse for
your friends to dress up and enjoy your day
but it is also a big responsibility so don't
be offended if someone turns down your
offer. It's probably nothing personal - your
friend may just not fancy the pressure of
being centre stage. Discuss with each maid
what you think her responsibilities should
be.
You
could even think about splitting tasks
between several friends so that one person
doesn't have to do everything. If you know a
particular sister or friend will be
miserable stuck on display in a big dress,
consider asking her to act as a
behind-the-scenes supporter instead. You are
a grown up girl, so be careful not to hurt
their feelings.
In
addition, consider your own comfort level
and that of your groom. It is best to avoid
asking anyone that makes your beloved
uncomfortable, since it is his day too. As
far as your own comfort is concerned, don't
let anyone manipulate you into asking her or
someone else to be a bridesmaid if you'd
rather not. For example, if your
mother-in-law-to-be insists that you ask her
daughter, find a way to politely decline if
the idea makes you uncomfortable. If you and
your sister-in-law are not particularly
close, inform her mother that you have
already asked long time friends and your own
family members to be bridesmaids.
Who chooses and who pays?
Within
reason your maids should accept what you
want them to wear since you are paying for
the dresses. Compromise and let them be
involved in choosing their dresses. You want
them to be comfortable and to feel pretty so
if you have more than one grown-up maid,
remember that not every style suits every
figure or complexion. Don't let them get
disappointed with what they have to wear,
because it's an honor for them to
participate.
It is
quite fashionable today for maids not to
wear exactly the same dress, so consider
choosing a colour theme, then asking each
maid to select her own dress in that colour
or choose one dress size and invite each
maid to wear it in a slightly different
colour. Traditionally, in Sri Lanka brides
parents or bride paid for the dresses & most
of the time it all in the same pattern under
one theme.
Get the word out!
There
are tons of fun ways to ask your friends to
be bridesmaids. Everything from a phone call
or a surprise dinner to a personalized
greeting card is acceptable these days. When
you ask someone to be your bridesmaid it
means a lot for them. For your maids their
role is, as important as you being the bride
of a glorious ceremony.
Our final advise is don't wear tension,
don't deliver tension, just enjoy your dream
day.
- Gayan |
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