This is also not an easy task, but the size and scale of your wedding will help you determine how many maids are appropriate and it is usual to choose from both sides of the family but don't feel pressurized into picking someone you don't want. Bridesmaids whoever you choose should help erase tension, not create it. Most of the time your best friend comes first since she knows as much as your groom knows about you & your feelings.

     You need to be careful in picking them since mix of personalities may lead to explosions. Well, you don't need any long-faces in your wedding.
 

Grown up girls

     Most importantly choose a friend who loves you, someone who will be a fun & honest shopping partner. On the day you want a supportive shoulder to lean on, not a one who is too busy flirting with the best man. Remember that being a bridesmaid is an excuse for your friends to dress up and enjoy your day but it is also a big responsibility so don't be offended if someone turns down your offer. It's probably nothing personal - your friend may just not fancy the pressure of being centre stage. Discuss with each maid what you think her responsibilities should be.
 

     You could even think about splitting tasks between several friends so that one person doesn't have to do everything. If you know a particular sister or friend will be miserable stuck on display in a big dress, consider asking her to act as a behind-the-scenes supporter instead. You are a grown up girl, so be careful not to hurt their feelings.

     In addition, consider your own comfort level and that of your groom. It is best to avoid asking anyone that makes your beloved uncomfortable, since it is his day too. As far as your own comfort is concerned, don't let anyone manipulate you into asking her or someone else to be a bridesmaid if you'd rather not. For example, if your mother-in-law-to-be insists that you ask her daughter, find a way to politely decline if the idea makes you uncomfortable. If you and your sister-in-law are not particularly close, inform her mother that you have already asked long time friends and your own family members to be bridesmaids.

Get the word out!

     There are tons of fun ways to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. Everything from a phone call or a surprise dinner to a personalized greeting card is acceptable these days. When you ask someone to be your bridesmaid it means a lot for them. For your maids their role is, as important as you being the bride of a glorious ceremony.

     Our final advise is don't wear tension, don't deliver tension, just enjoy your dream day.

- Gayan

Who chooses and who pays?

     Within reason your maids should accept what you want them to wear since you are paying for the dresses. Compromise and let them be involved in choosing their dresses. You want them to be comfortable and to feel pretty so if you have more than one grown-up maid, remember that not every style suits every figure or complexion. Don't let them get disappointed with what they have to wear, because it's an honor for them to participate.

     It is quite fashionable today for maids not to wear exactly the same dress, so consider choosing a colour theme, then asking each maid to select her own dress in that colour or choose one dress size and invite each maid to wear it in a slightly different colour. Traditionally, in Sri Lanka brides parents or bride paid for the dresses & most of the time it all in the same pattern under one theme.